Saturday, February 21, 2015

Conversation Partner Reflection - #3

Cindy and I met again at Fruitealicious.  I was really eager to meet with her because it was Mardi Gras and the week of the Chinese New Year.  When I think of the Chinese New Year, I think of the dancing dragon and the fact that each year is designated by one of twelve animals.  I was excited for her to share the tradition of the Chinese New Year with me and I to share the tradition of Mardi Gras with her.

When she arrived, she immediately started talking about her day of class with the IEP.  She told me that they had learned about Mardi Gras and ate King’s Cake…and didn’t get the baby!  I was a little bummed that she had already learned of one the biggest southern celebrations.  On the other hand, I learned more than I ever could have imagined about Chinese New Year.

One of the most interesting things I learned was how the Chinese New Year has been influenced by the many dynasties over the years.  Kids receive red pockets with money from their parents and grandparents, spend Chinese New Year’s Eve and Chinese New Year with their family, and eat traditional food.  The celebration sounded a lot like my Christmas.  Through the IEP they were going to have a celebration over the weekend that she invited me to, but, unfortunately, I had a prior commitment and couldn’t attend.

One of the things that I wondered about throughout our conversation is her religion.  Maybe it’s the way I was raised, but asking someone about his/her religion can be a bit taboo if you don’t know how he/she will react.  I know that Chinese New Year is based on the phases of the moon but didn’t know if it had any religious background.  She also told me that her mom knows a lot of astrology and horoscopes.  Thinking about this, I know that Cindy wants to share her way of life with me and would be more than willing to talk about her religion, but a part of me feels that it may be intrusive, as many people are private about their faith.

On another note, throughout our discussion, she was telling me about how the animals that are designated for each year represent something, such as: fortune, wisdom, loyalty, and so forth.  She proceeded to show me a necklace given to her by her mom that meant safety and a coral bracelet given to her by her dad that meant something else.  I began thinking about the English language and American traditions, and I feel like we don’t focus on what certain animals and items represent.  Yes, many Americans read and follow their horoscopes, but I don’t feel that my parents would give me a piece of jewelry because the material was supposed to mean something specific and apply to my life.


Talking with Cindy always makes me reflect on my life and the traditions that I grew up with.  Her traditions are nationalistic and pervasive throughout those in her life.  Sometimes I feel that my traditions are unsubstantial considering that China has been around for over three thousand years and America had only been around 300 years.  It’s awe-inspiring to me to see Cindy’s joy for her traditions and her family, but it’s also heartbreaking to see that this is her first time experiencing these traditions away from her family and away from her country.

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